That Facebook Thing

Yeah.  That Facebook thing.  I didn’t intend to write about it, but I just kept thinking about it.  There is a lot of talk going on about how it is really insensitive to people who have suffered infertility and miscarriage and babyloss.  And it is extremely insensitive to those people.

But forget the infertiles for a minute.  This pretend pregnancy status is insensitive to everyone.

Pregnancy announcements evoke very strong emotions.  I mean, we are talking about a brand new human life.  If I posted a pregnancy announcement on Facebook, there would be many people overjoyed for me.  And then for them to find out that it was a joke?  That’s cruel.

I imagine that there are people who would tell me to lighten up, that this is only a game.  I bet those are the kind of people who find it funny when someone pulls a chair out from underneath someone when they are about to sit down, so that they come crashing to the floor.  That’s also cruel.  And it isn’t funny.  That happened at my senior prom and Matt and I were the only two at the table who didn’t laugh.  Maybe people will tell us that we should get a sense of humor.  But I think it is that we have a sense of compassion and respect for others.  Jokes that hurt people aren’t funny.

I mean, at best, you are saying “haha” to someone when they congratulate you on something wonderful.  At worst, you are breaking hearts.  Can you imagine my mom’s reaction if I posted this on Facebook?