Something that I have long believed is that we all put our parenting (and everything else, but I am talking about the parenting today) energies towards different things. For example, I got an email recently from someone that I sent Christmas presents for her kids to and she said “I just don’t know how you do it!” And I was all “uh, you have that PhD in nuclear biology (or something) that I do not have…”
But anyway, my point here is that we all have different things that we care about and different things that we put our time, money, and energy towards. Some people are all about the organic food and make their own baby food. Maybe someone else makes all their kids clothes by hand. Maybe someone else is really committed to reading to their kids and makes a point to read them ten books a day. Maybe another parent cares a lot about balance and doesn’t do any one thing to an extreme. There are lots of examples here.
I think my main “energies” are car seats, shoes (these two are the places I put my money, not necessarily my energy and time), cloth diapers (but we can technically call that a hobby…), and clothes. Maybe also things like extended nursing and baby led weaning but I kind of do those because they are easier for me than not, so I don’t know if that counts. The clothes thing is not necessarily for expensive or cheap clothes (because I definitely do some of both), but I am pretty fussy about my kids always looking nice. (With this comes excessive face wiping because I cannot stand things like smeary mouths and runny noses. I’m not judging your kids or anything, but poor Elizabeth is always being held down and wiped. I am not 100% on that or anything because I am not superwoman, but I do my best to keep the kid smear free.) I don’t buy many things with licensed characters on them and I am super fussy about Elizabeth wearing things that are appropriate. (Ryan too, but I’ve only been dressing him for five months and there are fewer baby clothes problems.) I do not let her wear anything that I consider rude (things like shirts that say “Mom said no? Ask Grandma!”) and I am super picky about her clothes being appropriate for a little girl. (For example, I am not a huge fan of spaghetti straps or animal prints, though I have made exceptions for both of those in the past.) Matt even commented on that a few months ago at the mall, that Elizabeth is usually dressed nicer than the average kid. I was impressed that he noticed. Clothes are not really Matt’s thing.
Now, I do not care in the least if you make other choices for your kids. Like I said, everyone has different priorities for their energy. I’m just curious, what are the things that are important to you?